I chose to write about a difficult decision I had to make years ago. I had to choose between leaving my family in hope of employment, or continue to let tax money support all of us. It was the best decision I have ever made. Starting truly from nothing, to living a normal happy life, and none of this was possible without my wife. She is the true warrior. She stuck by me through this whole thing. She always supported my decisions. It was a very confusing time in my life, but I had to do what was best for my family.
In March of 2008, I was married to my wife, Lorene. I was 18 years old and ready to start a family. I was stupid. I made decent money working construction, but never expected to be laid off. My first son was born in October of 2008. So I got the family that I wanted, I just didn’t have a job now.
We lived in Yucca Valley, California, where my Mother rented a home to us. She was a recovering alcoholic. She lived in Arizona with her husband at the time. Her name was Lari Lee Packer. I know, boys first name. Doctors told her that if she ever drank alcohol again, she would die. After I told her husband many times not to bring alcohol in the house, he continued. So in January of 2009, my Mother spent a few weeks drinking with her husband, and died. She was 44 years old. Immediately after her death, people were calling, and showing up at my Mother’s house in California. A lot of the people that showed up wanted me to sign papers to take over my Mother’s debt. My older brother had already advised me to refuse. The other party of people that came were there only to inform us that we had 24 hours to get out.
My life was falling apart. We didn’t have any family in the area, nor any transportation. I was terrified. We ended up staying at a motel for two weeks, then moved down to the city of San Bernardino, where we lived with Lorene’s sister. Another year went by and we were still on welfare, and poorer than ever. I had nothing but my family, and a hard choice to make. I could stay and hope things would get better, or fly to my brother’s house in North Carolina and seek employment. It felt like such a long shot, but I had to do what was right. I couldn’t continue to feel useless. I made a family, just to be unable to provide for them. So I took the risk and flew to my brother’s house.
I walked two miles down the railroad tracks everyday, to go apply for jobs. On the fourth day, I was hired at McDonalds and a gas station. It sounds pathetic, but I no longer had standards since I was unemployed for so long. I would work endless hours, only to come home, collapse on my brother’s couch for four hours, get up and do it again. I continued this schedule for three weeks before deciding to leave McDonalds. By the time I received my last check from McDonalds, I had saved enough money, and flew my family to North Carolina.
In conclusion, it was a difficult decision to leave my family and venture into the unknown, but it was the best decision I have ever made. I think people need to remind themselves from time to time, “what is best for the family”? I now work as a hotel desk clerk, and I have a lot of free time. After discovering how much free time was available, I had to further pursue my education. So here I am, and that’s what’s best for my family.
<p style="text-align: justify;">The Difficult Decision is when you were Confused between two things that will change your life. And you can’t decide you Decision in one day, you most take a lot of time to Decision what it is good to you. Some times the Person Keep thinking for months to decide the best choice for him.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">And the difficult decision for me was when my father let me decide between studding here in Saudi Arabia Specifically in KFU or in The United States of America. That was a hard decision for me because this decision will determine my future. That decision made me think for three months, and that is very long time to decide.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">Every decision has positives and negatives, there are a lot of positives in studding in Saudi Arabia some of these you will be in between your family and your friends. And you will live in your family house so you don’t have to pay the rent or pay for your food that will make you use less money. And the negatives in that, you can’t take your freedom to enter and get out of your home and ensure, you can’t do what you want there is always rules.</p> <p style="text-align: justify;">And the positives in studding in America are a lot some of these you can be freedom to do any thing no one will be say anything to you there. And you will be responsible for yourself there. And the negatives in that, you can’t see your family and your friends for months. And you will miss to your country. After three months of thinking I decide to stay in Saudi Arabia.</p>